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Navigating Life’s Relentless Challenges
Dear MOTIVATION: Life is currently constantly challenging me. Just as I overcome one hurdle, another appears, sometimes multiple troubles or
February 4, 2025
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Dear MOTIVATION: I need your advice and help. An unexpected chain of life events hit me all at once in my second year of college. Now I am unmotivated and lost.
I am a first-generation college student who was filled with a lot of hope and promise when I left home to go out of state to college. In my second year of college, within two months, I loss my grandmother, one of my closest high school friends, and my financial aid. I stopped going to class and stayed in my dorm room with the lights off and blinds down. I eventually ended up back home in Maryland, locked in my old bedroom in the same state.
My mom and dad both get on me daily, insisting that I need to take myself back to college and finish what I started. I cannot do that right at this moment because I am unmotivated and lost at this point. Is the state that I am in going to change for the better? Do young people like me find their way through? — UNMOTIVATED AND LOST IN MARYLAND
DEAR UNMOTIVATED AND LOST IN MARYLAND: I send you my deepest condolences for your loss. Life’s chain of events will continue to happen as you go and grow through it. Some life events will be more severe and traumatizing than others. It’s tough when a ‘chain of life events’ hits you all at once and knocks both the wind and motivation out of your sail.
Your college experience is there for you to strengthen your mind, resilience, and ability to become independent and self-sufficient in life. I wrote an article for college students in 2012 titled, “Reigniting Your Motivation for College.” This article provides a young, brilliant college student like you eight tips and two sound methods to help you find your motivation and your way, again, in college when you feel unmotivated and lost.
Follow through on these steps sooner than later: 1) Get up and open the blinds in your room; let in the daylight. 2) Call your college campus and ask to speak with the Center for Student Services and ask to speak with a counselor or therapist in this area if you haven’t already. Or have your parents take you to a licensed therapist or a caring adult/leader/mentor in your community to talk to about your current situation. 3) Take out a few sheets of paper and a pen and write yourself a personal letter on how you truly felt after receiving the news in each instance in your ‘chain of life-changing events.’ On a separate sheet of paper, write yourself another letter expressing how you currently see yourself pressing forward and through to the goals and promising dreams you still hold for yourself. 4) Have an open and honest sit-down meeting and discussion with your parents on how you’re feeling and how they can assist you in reconnecting to your motivation and finding your way through your current state and in life.
Think outside the box to help you find a path toward stability, self-motivation, and action-driven success. Also, hang onto your vision, hopes, and dreams, resist the temptation to quit on life, and stay down on yourself because — you have what it takes to win in life and college. Recapture your motivation, work hard, and soon, you will reconnect to and once again unleash the winner in you.
Dear MOTIVATION: I need your advice and help. An unexpected chain of life events hit me all at once in my second year of college. Now I am unmotivated and lost.
I am a first-generation college student who was filled with a lot of hope and promise when I left home to go out of state to college. In my second year of college, within two months, I loss my grandmother, one of my closest high school friends, and my financial aid. I stopped going to class and stayed in my dorm room with the lights off and blinds down. I eventually ended up back home in Maryland, locked in my old bedroom in the same state.
My mom and dad both get on me daily, insisting that I need to take myself back to college and finish what I started. I cannot do that right at this moment because I am unmotivated and lost at this point. Is the state that I am in going to change for the better? Do young people like me find their way through? — UNMOTIVATED AND LOST IN MARYLAND
DEAR UNMOTIVATED AND LOST IN MARYLAND: I send you my deepest condolences for your loss. Life’s chain of events will continue to happen as you go and grow through it. Some life events will be more severe and traumatizing than others. It’s tough when a ‘chain of life events’ hits you all at once and knocks both the wind and motivation out of your sail.
Your college experience is there for you to strengthen your mind, resilience, and ability to become independent and self-sufficient in life. I wrote an article for college students in 2012 titled, “Reigniting Your Motivation for College.” This article provides a young, brilliant college student like you eight tips and two sound methods to help you find your motivation and your way, again, in college when you feel unmotivated and lost.
Follow through on these steps sooner than later: 1) Get up and open the blinds in your room; let in the daylight. 2) Call your college campus and ask to speak with the Center for Student Services and ask to speak with a counselor or therapist in this area if you haven’t already. Or have your parents take you to a licensed therapist or a caring adult/leader/mentor in your community to talk to about your current situation. 3) Take out a few sheets of paper and a pen and write yourself a personal letter on how you truly felt after receiving the news in each instance in your ‘chain of life-changing events.’ On a separate sheet of paper, write yourself another letter expressing how you currently see yourself pressing forward and through to the goals and promising dreams you still hold for yourself. 4) Have an open and honest sit-down meeting and discussion with your parents on how you’re feeling and how they can assist you in reconnecting to your motivation and finding your way through your current state and in life.
Think outside the box to help you find a path toward stability, self-motivation, and action-driven success. Also, hang onto your vision, hopes, and dreams, resist the temptation to quit on life, and stay down on yourself because — you have what it takes to win in life and college. Recapture your motivation, work hard, and soon, you will reconnect to and once again unleash the winner in you.
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