Dear MOTIVATION: Since leaving the United States Air Force, I’ve been struggling with overwhelming expectations for myself. I want to succeed in civilian life, but it feels awkward with a mountain of pressure. In the military, I was proactive and accountable. I worked daily to exceed expectations to achieve my command’s mission. As a civilian working in the corporate sector now, I miss the structure and camaraderie I had with my fellow service members. How can I set realistic goals without feeling inadequate or discouraged? I fear failing and losing my sense of purpose. Any advice on how to navigate this transition and create manageable objectives would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your help! — VETERAN SEEKING GUIDANCE IN FLORIDA

DEAR VETERAN: Thank you for your service. Congratulations on your courage and commitment as you navigate this transition! I, too, can relate to what it felt like after leaving military service and working in the corporate sector as a civilian. Trust me when I tell you — you’ve got this! Setting realistic goals begins with reflection. Break your larger aspirations into smaller, actionable steps that feel achievable. Focus on your strengths and consider what brings you joy and what made you feel most inspired and productive in the military. Establish short-term goals alongside long-term plans to give yourself the structure you’re missing; this will also help you maintain purpose-driven motivation. Relax your military mindset, welcome, and let in the new. Step outside your comfort zone to connect and bond with your new co-workers and civilian team. Do not hesitate to seek support from fellow veterans, the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, a VET Center in your area, or professionals who understand your journey. Remember, adjusting your goals as you grow in this new phase of life is okay. Pause and breathe for a few minutes or so whenever you feel overwhelmed or out of sorts again. Be patient with yourself, and celebrate each milestone you achieve!